I Need Some Advice……?
October 19, 2009 by admin
Filed under Care & Training Q&As
Okay, me and my sisters(especially me) are totally stressed out ’cause our brother who’s 12 is impossible to deal with. He has a few learning disabilities but you could never tell unless someone told you. He just learns slower then we do and he looks completely normal. Anyways, he insults us all day, yells at us, tells on us for the smallest things you could imagine, lies consistently, hardly does a dang thing all day , has to be told several times before he even thinks of doing his chores and he bullies my little papillon by teasing him, kicking him, scarying him to death and completely ruining everything I’ve trained him to do. It’s obvious he’s jealous ’cause he doesn’t get his own dog. Anyways, the point is, he’s ruining our lives. Even when I don’t even do anything to upset him my mom still grounds me or something. This happens everyday. I can’t take this any longer. Please help me!!!
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The best solution to this problem would be to see if you could have your parents to get him neutered, it work on our dogs and cats.
Sounds like your brother is pretty much like every other 12 year old boy with sisters,
Most young boys believe that it is their given right to torment, get into trouble his sisters.
I don’t know how much the special needs play into the whole thing but you can bet that as long you have a little brother ” or a brother for that matter you are going to have your disagreements and arguements.
Best advice I can give is that you learn how to manuver your brother into maturing and growing up.
Help him to learn to walk through life, after all isn’t that you would want from someone else.
It’s going to take time and he will grow out of it.
Just Love him the way you would want to be Loved .
Good luck and keep on Loving oneanother.
I understand how your feeling by your letter. However your little brother probably also feels you and your other sister don’t care to much for him and he knows it and he’s acting out on top of that. Why not try and change the way you think and act towards him it will shock him at first yes. but reinforce to your little brother how much you care get him involved in things. dont’ close the door or yell get out of my room you can’t come in. have him feel more part of the family and that he can go to his big sis. after all thats what familys are for. he just wants to be accepted and your probably ignoring him. im sure he’ll change is ways once he knows his sisters are on his side and love him just as much. he gets enough of that outside of the house when people find out he’s slow. he certainly shouldn’t have to feel that way at home. Praise him for things he does. be the big sister that you are and show him more compassion. that will go along way in the end with him. specially when he goes out of the house and see how cruel people can be as he may be a bit slower. let him know that his house is safe from that.
I am unaware of the learning disabilities your brother has, yet every disability deserves the same respect. I volunteer to work with autistic children. These children, have trouble communicating and can even throw tanterums. Sometimes, their parents, do get frustrated, because it is difficult to live with. Yet, children with disabilites have issues most of us cannot understand, because we are not in their shoes. Of course, we well know the shoes they walk in, but we do not know how it feels to actually be in them. He learns different than other children, and is not going to be able to relate to as many people as you can. You were lucky, you do not have to have this disability, yet he does. & chances are, though he doesn’t show it or even realize it, it is more difficult for him than it is for you. This child, he is not the bit strange, but he is not going to function exactly like a younger brother without whom does not have this defect. However, most brothers do tell on their sisters, and, actually, every person does lie and envy. He may not act the way you want him to, but it isn’t his fault, or yours for that matter. You have to be there for him, and overlook his negatives. Quit treating him like a brother and more as a friend.
Get your sisters (and you) to simply ignore. Once he doesn’t have a audience he’ll shut up.
IGNORE him. He’ll get sick of doing it.